Here's one of those adaptations for a slightly-smaller than I'd like scarf- layering another one underneath, for some added inches. The ends of that other scarf also gave me some bulk in the bun area of this headcovering. It's a little less out-going than my usual wedding-wear, but this was a wedding where we were closer to the groom's parents than to the folks getting married, and in a community I was quite unfamiliar with- so I decided to go a little less dramatic than usual. I still like how it came out.
This was a wedding in a community that was significantly to the right of my own, or of the communities where I am usually a guest. I considered pulling my scarf further forward than I'd usually wear it- but eventually chose not to. Regardless, it was pretty clear that I wasn't "from around here"- I think there were only one or two other women wearing tichels at all- most of the local married women wore wigs. Regardless- I never know how much to adapt my own practice to respect local minhag (custom- perhaps not a strong enough word), and how much to hold fast to my own practice.
Also even such restrained color as this is was more than most of the women were wearing. When did black and white (mostly black) become a uniform for women too?
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