We went to our nephew's chalake (like an upsherin, only Sephardi- a boy's first haircut at age 3, where he also gets his first kippah), last fall. It was actually the first one of either sort that I'd been to- so I can't discuss how it was similar or different. But it was a sweet event, and clearly a pretty potent ritual moment for our nephew- if a little overwhelming for him at times.
I wonder what we'll do for our children, when they (G-d willing) come along. Clearly, it's impossible to decide so far in advance, but I like speculating.
Will we just cut all our children's hair whenever it seems logical, and put kippot on them (boys, maybe girls?) gradually? Will we wait, and then put a kippah on boys? If so- then what for a daughter? A kippah? A headband? Will it depend on where we are and our community? Can I ask a daughter to deal with being accused of wearing "boys' clothing", when I know how difficult teasing is for a child- I went through plenty of it myself...? (Especially given that my husband will be an Orthodox rabbi- it makes for a community that will Notice what we do, and have their own opinions, desired or not.) Or are hair bows plenty of head covering for a little girl? How do I account for my values?