My own image of myself is rather the opposite- my covering makes me feel adult and competent and a very different sort of pretty from how I presented myself with my hair down, which tends to feel rather innocent or young when I'm imagining myself.
Covering my hair often does give me that "I'm wearing a crown" feeling that motivational speakers and writers talk about. I feel more dignified and adult, while also feeling beautiful. I think I associate it with stories and historical pieces where only young women wear their hair down- married women, or really, adult women, put their hair up in various setting-appropriate hair-dos.
(What I happen to be wearing today)Only my hair is quite slippery, and while it's very long, it lacks body. And I've never had the interest in figuring out the mysteries of hair spray. So up-dos have never been my thing, I never figured them out. Not to mention that they are generally quite incompatible with a scarf or kippah.
In other words, covering for me is not only a religious choice, but also a powerful aid to my self-image. I feel more confident, more beautiful, more capable. It surprises me to hear that some people have the opposite reaction to my covering. But I'm sticking to my guns- I'm not letting this disturb my vision of myself, I like it too much.